Indian Wedding Games

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The marriage ceremony is lightened with a few traditional games meant to elevate the mood and create a feeling of unity between members of the two families.

Some of the games are

Fish the Ring
This Indian wedding game determines who will rule the roost in the home front. When the couple appears as man and wife before the family gathering for the first time, the big question is who will take charge in the relationship. The bride and groom are asked to take off their rings and put them in a pot of clear water. As the rings settle to the bottom, they are asked to churn the water as vigorously as possible. Once their hands come out, everyone looks at the water. If the bride's ring lags behind in the swirling water she will be an obedient wife. If it is the opposite, the groom will be wrapped around her finger!
The final test is placing the rings in a pot or shallow 'thaal' of milk and asking the couple to 'fish'. Whoever finds the ring first will always have the upper hand!


Jutti Chupai (Hiding the Shoes)
When the couple reaches the mandap for the 'pheras', the groom removes his shoes. The bridesmaid seize his shoes and hide them. After the ceremony is complete and the groom gets up to leave the mandap, his 'saalis' (bridesmaid) surround him and demand a preposterous sum of money in exchange for his shoes. The groom is left with no alternative in spite of a lot of begging and pleading. He pays the ransom and is then allowed to put on his shoes.


Knotted Strings
In another attempt to predict the future of the couple's married life, the bride is given a knotted string to unwind. She and her husband use one hand each to unravel the knots The sooner they unravel them, the greater the ease with which they will face life's struggles and achieve success. The coveted position of the 'knot-tier' is given to the favorite sister of the groom and it is up to her to make it difficult!


You Touch My Heart
This game is particularly enjoyable for the women from the bride's side. Several round slots are made with a saree, wide enough for a hand to pass through. The saree is held lengthwise and behind it stand women from the bride's side, including the bride. All the women thrust their hand upto the wrist out of the holes. The groom stands on the other side from where he can only see an array of hands. The challenge for him is to search correctly for his bride's hands for which he is given three chances. Failing this, he has to pay a 'fine' before his bride is reunited with him.

Where Is My Heart
In this, married couples - including the bride and groom - stand back-to-back in random order, such that they cannot see each other. Each woman has to find her spouse by calling out to him with an endearment such as "Where is my heart?" without addressing him by name. The husband has to respond accordingly. There is much laughter if the wrong man answers! Those who find their spouse leave the game while those who fail continue calling out till they have found their partner.

The process

Planning your wedding day takes a considerable amount of hard work, flexibility and passion. Having a check list really helps!! Get an organizer and a file, record details, quotes and stuff in them....

6 Months before the Wedding

• Select a date for your wedding (contact priest for Mahurats)
• Set a budget, as well as costs-sharing.
• Picture the type of wedding theme you want
• View & Select wedding Venue, set the time etc (Consider seating capacity)
• Draw a guestlist
• Select and reserve your officiant/Priest
• Purchase Invitation cards
• Choose wedding attire

4 Months before the Wedding

• Search for Printer get Quotes
• Select a Bridal Studio/Outdoor Photoshoot
• Choose your flower girls
• Search for a wedding photographer
• Search for a wedding Videographer
• Search for a Decorater
• Schedule fittings and PG date for Outdoor/Studio Photography.
• Eat plenty of fruits and consume water for good complexion
• Go for facials, massages
• Search for a MUA
• Search for Henna artist
• Search for Manicure/Pedicure Lady


2 Months Before the Wedding

• Complete and finalize guest list.
• Arrange for your caterer.
• Book videographer.
• Book Photographer.
• Book DJ
• Book Bhangra Troupe
• Print wedding invitations and stationary - invites, wedding programs, table nos
• Decide on and finalize no of pre wed ceremonies
• Delegate duties eg gift attendant, reception etc


1 Month before the Wedding

• send out invitations,map etc
• Order Loose flowers + Garlands.

3 Weeks before the Wedding
• Determine hair style and makeup.
• schedule for makeup, hair and beauty, accessories and nails.Trials

The BIG Week
• Inform caterer of final guest count.
• Try wedding attire and make sure everything fits
• Meet with coordinator(cousin/aunt) to contact service providers
•Prepare a timeline for wedding events

The Day of the Delegation

• Delegate duties to cousins/uncles n aunties
• Designate someone to bring accessories - flowerbasket, guest book and pen, to the ceremony
• Provide a detailed schedule of events for the wedding
• Designate someone to return rental items

The Day of Your Wedding

• Stick to the planned schedule.
• Use your wedding checklist to stay on track and have a great, stress free and memorable wedding day!